16 ways to talk about consent

transcending-anatomy:

thesexosaurus:

1. “Do you like when I…?”
2. “I like when you…”
3. “Will you…?”
4. “How does this feel?”
5. “Do you want me to…?”
6. “Do you want to…?”
7. “Is there anything you want to try?”
8. “Show me what you like.”
9. “Do you want to go further?”
10. “Do you want to stop?”
11. “Can I…?”
12. “Does this feel good?”
13. “Are you happy?”
14. “Are you comfortable?”
15. “Are you having a good time?”
16. “Is this good for you?”

My favorite thing about this list: the mix of statements, open-ended questions, and yes-or-no questions.


nextyearsgirl:

The absence of women in history is man made.



voyboyfanclub:

so TERF was a term that was obviously coined by trans women and a lot of people know it as meaning “trans exclusionary radical feminist” (and i did too until just recently) but it originally stood for “trans exterminatory radical feminist” and TERFs changed the meaning of it to make it sound less horrible

so in case you needed more reason to hate TERFs there you go have some blatant silencing of trans women


I think we still live in a culture that assumes that men are single by choice and women are single because no one wants them.

grrrlfever:

you keep saying “we’re all human” but all i hear is “i want to completely ignore institutionalised oppression and shut my eyes and pretend everyone is treated equally to escape the guilt of the numerous privileges i’m afforded”


Many groups claim that they are neutral about reporting a rape to the police; they say they neither push a woman into it, nor tell her she shouldn’t report. Their literature and phone counseling is biased toward giving women information on how to report a rape and what the police and hospital procedures are. They don’t present any other options besides going to the police or doing nothing. Therefore, if a woman feels that she’d like to do something about her rape, but the only thing she is told about is the police, her probable choice would be to go to the police.

Letter to the Anti-Rape Movement (1977)

The legal/prison system isn’t a viable option for many survivors of sexual violence. The system perpetuates racism and misogyny, engages in its own sexual violence, responds to a select few “types” of victims, revictimizes survivors in multiple ways (including incarcerating them), and does nothing to address the larger culture of sexual violence.

Anti-violence groups need to provide more options.

(via bebinn)


thatssoproblematic:

pymparticles:

Scientists have discovered the animal kingdom first female penis.

They have also discovered a new way to make me say “Well, goddamn”.

Contrary to popular belief, the presence or absence of certain sex organs isn’t the determining factor when deciding which animal of a species is female and which is male.”

Contrary to popular belief, the presence or absence of certain sex organs isn’t the determining factor when deciding which animal of a species is female and which is male.”

"Contrary to popular belief, the presence or absence of certain sex organs isn’t the determining factor when deciding which animal of a species is female and which is male."

YO CISSEXISTS WHO LIKE SCIENCE SO MUCH. CHECK THIS OUT.


sufferingsappho:

"Um, you can’t be a woman because you don’t have breasts"
There are cis women who don’t have breasts
“You’re not a woman if you don’t give birth”
There are cis women who can’t or don’t give birth
“You only have that body because of hormones”
There are cis women who take hormones
“Because of surgery!”
There are cis women who have cosmetic surgery
There are cis women who have body hair, who have facial hair, who don’t menstruate, who are taller, who are more muscular, who play sports, who have deep voices, who don’t like wearing dresses, who only wear dresses, who suck at doing their own hair and makeup, who play video games, who watch violent movies, who take up space and who refuse to silence themselves for the sakes of others.
When you police trans women, you police all women.


sorryexcuseforsorry:

THE IMPORTANCE OF EACH OTHER (2014)